I understand, I know. You enter your bedroom, and you condider, “This is such a romantic mood of dentist office.” Believe me I have done it. And after years of trying out various styles of decoration (let alone some rather questionable decisions), I have finally got the formula on how to create a bedroom that tempts you to spend time in it.
The bedroom is designed to be your sanctuary- the one place that the chaos disappears where you and your partner can create something more magical than anyone has ever imagined. Do you want to make your room a comfy cozy place that shouts romance, but yet does not scream like a cheesy movie set? Ok, how about we get right to it.
Lighting: The Ultimate Mood Maker
Ditch the Harsh Overhead Lights

Here is the thing about overhead lights they are as romantic as grocery store fluorescent lights. I got to know this first hand when I spent months going over why my meticulously adorned room seemed so… blah.
Everything is changed by warm layered lighting. And you can think, table lamps with warm or yellow light, floor lamps in corners, and perhaps cleverly-placed LED strips behind your headboard. The goal? Your desire is lighting that makes every one look like he or she was in a romantic film.
Lighting Type | Romantic Factor | Best Placement |
---|---|---|
Warm table lamps | High | Nightstands, dresser |
String lights | Medium-High | Around headboard, windows |

Candles: Because Obviously
Candles, I know, are the most obvious example; but, there is a reason why it is a classic. The light that flickers produces a mood that can never be compared to an electric bulb. Please – in the name of all things lovely and romantic – buy some decent candles that do not reek of a gas station 🙂

Tips and tricks: Pro tip, based on experience setting off far too many fire alarms: battery-powered candles are really good for those of us who forget.
Textiles That Invite Touch
Layer Your Bedding Like a Pro

Ever think how nice hotel beds look? It is all about the layers my friend. I would fling a duvet on my bed and think nothing of it- big mistake.
Use quality sheets (really, it does make a difference, more than you might imagine), drape over that a light blanket, and finish it with a duvet or comforter. Different textured throw pillows- perhaps a bit of velvet, perhaps faux fur, or even silk. The trick is to produce depth and visual appeal.
Curtains That Create Drama
Curtains of thick material, that sweeps across the floor, just transforms any room into a luxury and cozier place. I changed those morose tiny window dressings to plush, dark curtains that fall slightly to the ground and it was night and day.

Blackout curtains have two uses- they give you privacy and assist you to get better sleep. Win-win there and then.
Color Psychology for Romance
Warm Neutrals with Rich Accents

This is where people get it all wrong all the time- in their head, romantic might mean that everything is bright pink or red. Believe me, unless you have a theme of Valentine Day explosion this style will grow stale real quick.
Mid-dark jewel tones, such as emerald, burgundy, or navy blue are sophisticated. Combine with warm neutrals of cream, soft gray or warm beige. It is a cozy, sleek combo that is not threatening.
The Power of Contrast
Light and dark play form visual contrast and this maintains interestingness. In case you have light-colored walls think about a dark accent wall behind your bed. Dark walls? Put some light bedding and accessories to lighten it.
Creating Intimate Seating Areas
Beyond the Bed

Why not have sex in the whole bed room? With a small loveseat in the corner of our bedrooms we have totally transformed the use of the space. And we now have a place to go to have morning coffee, or discussions in the evening or simply to read.
In the case of limited space, you can use a comfy chair with soft throw. The purpose is to develop a number of places that you would be able to gather and unwind.
The Art of the Reading Nook
Provided that you have a window that gets enough natural light, make it your reading nook. Place some cushions, a small side table and a great lighting. You may never set foot in that bookcase, but it gives a focal point that communicates that this is a room not all about sleeping.

Scent: The Forgotten Romantic Element
Choose Your Signature Scent
It may seem a little bit excessive, but being able to have a specific smell around your bedroom creates potent associations. I blend vanilla and sandalwood – it is warm but not too obtrusive.

Reed diffusers are more effective than room sprays since they do not just send out scents that may be overwhelming. Now you don?t want to be too obvious, so it is all about subtlety.
Personal Touches That Tell Your Story
Display Meaningful Items
Impersonal generic decor is cold. Rather, put in on parade the things that have real meaning to both of you. Pictures of vacations, books you may have enjoyed reading or even collections you might have made for a long time.
Use of shadow boxes can be used to put such small memories as concert tickets and love notes. The small space is all yours with these personal touches.
Art That Speaks to You
Forget about the mass-produced Live, Laugh, Love signs and purchase art that really has a meaning to you. This can be as simple as photos, paintings or even poster advertisements of concerts, as long as they or it can Certainly generate conversation and emotion.

Plants: Natural Romance
Greenery That Thrives in Low Light
Plants can bring freshness and life into every corner but bedrooms are not generally the most sunlit areas. Snake plants, pothos, or ZZ plants will do fine in a more dim light setting and are helpful air-purifying plants to have in the bedroom.
On my dresser and nightstand I have a few small plants which give the right amount of green without overwhelming the rest of the furniture.
Technology: Hide It or Make It Beautiful
Managing the Digital Intrusion
Cmon guys everybody has a phone, tablet, and plenty of other things we use in the bedroom. Rather than faking that they are not there, allocate specific areas around them where their presence will not kill the romance.
Below-desk charging docks that conceal cords and hold other devices are organized and preserve the tranquil environment you would like to achieve. When it is out of sight, it is out of mind, right?
Storage Solutions That Don’t Kill the Mood
Beautiful Organization
There is no faster way to kill the romantic mood than to have a mess everywhere. However, it does not imply you have to trade off storage on the design.
Their ottoman benches at the base of your bed that offer seating and conceal additional bedding or seasonal stuff. Nightstands with stylish and concealed baskets have necessities ready yet out of sight.
The Five-Minute Rule
This is one personal practice that has worked wonders: take 5 minutes every night and tidy up and put things where they belong. Clean room gets more romantic and calm.
Mirror Magic

Strategic Reflection
Mirrors don t only make the rooms seem more expansive, they also lengthen and magnify light so you get more bang out of your romantic lighting. There is a huge mirror facing a window, which takes full advantage of daylight.
All it takes is consideration of placement. You do not want mirrors to flatter spaces, but rather to provide sight lines that make you self-conscious that someone is watching.
Final Thoughts: Making It All Work Together
Bedroom retreat romantic design is not based on all trends or expensive designer furniture. It is about a sense of purposeful environment, comfort and your own.
The finest romantic bedrooms have a story to tell… your story. They have the ability to match comfort and beauty, privacy and openness, personal style and timelessness.
So start with 1/2 thing(s) that you love the most then build from there. Maybe they’ve got a new lighting, maybe they’ve finally gotten quality bedding, or maybe they’ve just decluttered and let the breath fresh air come in.
Keep in mind, it is not the big gestures that make romance, but providing the space and setting in which a connection and intimacy can naturally occur. That is what your bedroom should be helping you achieve on a daily basis.
FYI, the most romantic bedrooms I have ever seen were not the most costly ones- they are the bedrooms where someone has obviously put a lot of thought and deliberateness to each and every little detail. Any of us can accomplish that, no matter what he budget is.
Now get out there and make you own little cozi corner. Your future self (and your partner) will hate you for it not being so.